"The loss of an individual utterly reconfigures the whole"

 

That title is a quote from a film I'm working on at the moment called
"Our Brief Eternity". The text is by William Gibson
I had a really good conversation with a new friend last night. We have
both lost parents that we were very close to this year. It's one of those
things that we all dread but all have to face. That experience is so
powerful that it makes it difficult to relate to anyone who is not in
that head space with you. People that are outside of it just can't
understand where you are at. It can be a very alienating experience.
Experiences that mark us this deeply define us as people. So
what did I learn from this? To be present for the big moments. No
matter how much it hurts. I had some amazing conversations with
my mother in days preceding her death. I'm really grateful that i had
the opportunity to have that time with her.
The people that we love live inside of us after they are gone. We carry
the intimacy, their ways of speaking, sense of humor and ideas with us.
Those feelings are like time machines carrying human experience into
the future.